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Building A Home Of Your Choice

TEXT: Genesis 28: 18-25; Psalm 127:1-5; Ephesians 5:21-23; Proverbs 18:22, 24:3-6


Marriage is like a building, it requires wisdom and knowledge of God to build it. It is a vision from heaven, then it requires the help of He that formed it first. Except the Lord builds your marriage, you will simply be laboring in vain. It requires love, understanding and proper connection to the Spirit of God to get all you need in your home. The success of your home is a choice, it does not fall like ripe fruits from heaven. When you have a wrong picture of your husband or wife in your mind, you cannot be happy in that home again until you change that image. Such bad pictures of your husband or wife in your mind will always make his or her good intentions to be misinterpreted. You can't have peace in your life if you take away your husband's or wife's peace.


  1. No man or woman is an angel, but any man or woman can become an angel of any home by the making of a good man or woman. Genesis 2:18, 21-25
  2. No man or woman has all the qualities it takes to make a good home, but every good quality needed can be cultivated. Don't choose because of riches, but by the love of God. Prov. 18:22
  3. The success of your marriage is in your hands. Every good marriage is built by someone like you. Prov. 14:1
  4. Every man or woman must have a vision to build a man or woman of his or her choice. So you don't get tired until the man or woman of your choice is found in your home. If it is a vision, it requires hard work, prayer, love, commitment, knowledge, wisdom and tolerance to get such a man or woman. Isaiah 62:1-7, Prov 4:7,23, Prov 21:23


  1. Do you have a vision for your home? If yes, then write, expand and explain that vision to yourself and build it to succeed. Hab. 2:2-3
  2. It takes a renewed mind to have an excellent home not conformed to the world. Rom. 12:1-2, Prov 16:18
  3. Marriage is not bondage, slavery or captivity, it is God's mini-kingdom on Earth. 2 Cor. 6:11-18, 1 Cor 13
  4. Do not be a brawling, barking, nagging, and gossiping man or woman. Prov. 21:9,19; 15:1, Col 4:6, Prov 16:23-25, Prov 25:11
  5. Learn to protect the image of your husband or wife from destruction. Prov 6:16-35
  6. Do not make your home a grave yard where many people are killed through gossip. Prov. 26:20-28
  7. Never hand over your husband or wife to Satan by your character. Prov. 24: 3-6, Prov 14:33-34, Prov 14:12, Prov 14:1, Prov 15:1, Eph 4:27


  1. The only power that can crush your marriage is the one you devote to Satan to work. 1 Pet. 3:8-11
  2. The greatest obedience is the obedience in the presence and the absence of your husband. Phil. 2:12
  3. When problems are properly handled in marriage, the bitterness in them disappears without delay. Isa. 43:18-19
  4. When problems are given room in marriage your home becomes a dangerous home. Prov. 18:6-8
  5. The devil can never force you when you say no to his offer in your home. 1 Peter 5:8-9
  6. When marriage is wrongly handled, you become bitter rather than better. Mal. 2:14-16
  7. If love is given freedom to reign in any home, nothing stands to oppose and win. 1 Cor. 13:4-7


Love is the medicine that heals the most grievous wounds in marriage. There is great danger dwelling in the past shocks of problems in your marriage, they will stop you from cultivating a fresh love. Make Jesus the director of your home. Learn to say I am sorry darling at all times. It is not costly to say but pride do not allow so many to say it. It heals a lot of wounds. Your marriage can change if you dare change.