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The Pastor, His Family and Ministry

TEXT: Ex. 28:1-5, Heb. 5:1-4, 1 Tim. 3:1-7


This topic has always been controversial among many pastors especially when it comes to which one comes first, the family or the ministry; but according to our teaching today, we will begin first with the person of the pastor before we talk of the other two. Nevertheless, we will treat the family of the pastor before his ministry. When you look at the first text, you will see the class or quality of the pastor, where he belongs and how God prepares him to come into that high level office. The pastor is a person of class, but we have to understand that if he does not have a good and quality family, he will not have a reasonable and an impacting ministry. 1 Tim. 3:4-7.


  1. On the general note, when we use the word pastor, it covers the five-fold ministry, the Apostle, Prophet, Evangelist, Teacher and Pastor. No matter the title a man or woman of God has, we generally call them pastor. Of course we know the pastor as a Shepherd, one who takes care of people and builds their future and destiny. Heb.5:1-2, Heb.13:7, 17.
  2. The pastor must get himself well established all round
    • A) Spiritually – Being very prayerful and watchful
    • B) Mentally – Studying the word and reading several books and listening to the messages of our bishop and other quality ministers.
    • C) Physically – Taking proper care of his body, what he or she wears, his or her armpit, teeth, finger nails, and even have sometimes make out time for sports to be fit.
    • D) Morally – To avoid distraction via social media, but rather use it for personal growth, in other to be able to feed or lead those that follow him. No man can give what he or she does not have. 2 Tim. 2:15, 2 Tim. 3:14-17.
  3. Being aware of the so many dangers and challenges the pastors go through, he needs to be properly protected and cared for. The pastor is faced with so many attacks all around that he or she needs people around to help manage several things around him or her especially when he or she is solely on full time and busy from morning to night doing the things of the kingdom. 1 Tim. 5:17-18, 2 Tim. 3:10-13.


  1. When we talk about the family of the pastor; it is supposed that the pastor should be married before he or she will assume the pastoral office. Nevertheless, a young man or woman can be absorbed into pastoral office and he or she can grow from there into a family life and get married. 1 Tim.3:2
  2. If the pastor is married, the family must be properly cared for according to the income of the assembly, and that is why the wife of the pastor needs to be strong and active in order to help the husband until they are able to stand together doing the work without stress. Gal. 6:6-10, 1 Thess. 5:12-13, Prov. 31:10-31
  3. The pastor must have proper time with his family; both wife and husband must have personal time of intimacy and then have time for their children. Some pastors are strangers in their home, they go out early and come back late when the children have slept and this happens for long time until the pastor loses his family for the ministry. They care for others but leave their family wasted until sometimes the family is divided in mind, spirit and finally physically. Gen.18:17-19, 1 Tim. 5:8, 1 Cor. 7:3-5.
  4. The pastor must learn to give quality offering, pay complete tithes, study the Bible, pray and fast together with his or her spouse to avoid the enemy coming. Matt 7:24-27, Matt. 6:19-21, Mal 1:6-8, 1 Cor. 7:5-6, 1 Peter 3:1-12.
  5. These three things PLAY, PLAN and PRAY must be in every pastoral home or marriage.
    • A) They must learn to Play Together Gen. 26:8-11
    • B) They must learn to Plan Together Eccl.9:10, Prov. 31:10-31, Prov. 22:29
    • C) They must learn to Pray Together 1 Peter 3:7


  1. As we already talked of the family of the pastor; we know we will finally anchor our boat on his or her ministry. All of these are very unimportant and indispensable but if the Pastor does not have a good and quality home, his ministry will be shallow and will not be fulfilled.
  2. The ministry is the calling of the pastor; the reason why he or she was created. This is a delicate area where Jesus said anyone who loves himself or herself more than Him or the gospel will not get the reward of the kingdom. How then do we handle these two things together, the family and the ministry? Don't bother we will explain it better as we delve into the teaching. Matt. 6:33, Mark 8:34-38, Matt. 10:32-42.
  3. Paul wrote to the Colossians telling Archippus to make sure that he fulfils the ministry which he has received from the Lord. Col. 4:17. This implies
    • A) Commitment
    • B) Focus
    • C) Fulfilment
    When we look at Luke 9:62, it is clear "”And Jesus said unto them, No man having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.” God is started reminding us not to handle the Ministry with excuses. Luke 9:57-61.
  4. Today many pastors are carried away by movies and social media; they spend all their time on Facebook, whatsapp, imo, instagram, and in watching Hollywood and Nollywood movies etc. They forget to study the bible, read other spiritual books, listen to messages and gospel songs; some forget to fast, pray and get in involved in other spiritual exercises that can help someone grow to higher heights. 2 Tim. 2:15, 2 Tim. 3:14-17, 1 Tim. 4:11-16.
  5. Finally, we want to say emphatically that anyone who refuses to fulfil his calling on earth will suffer loss in the coming kingdom. We are called co-labourers with God in this kingdom business and if we refuse to do our part, then our calling and purpose in creation will be wasted. 1 Cor. 3:9-15, 1 Cor. 15:58, Heb. 6:10.